Abusers have several traits in common that you may not notice until it is too late. They tend to isolate their intended target from family and friends early on, making them feel guilty about excluding them from activities or needing anyone other than them in their life.

They may insist that their partner quit their job and this may sound like a dream come true, but in reality, it forces them to depend on the abuser for every essential need, for their very survival, eliminating their financial independence and any opportunity to save up money to leave.

During arguments, the abuser will immediately snatch the phone, keys, bank card, ID etc. from the person they are trying to keep under their control. It's hard to leave without your identification, communication and resources. That's ok, run to a nearby phone and call 911 or Urban Success for help 24 hours a day 513-800-1933.

Abusers also try to block the door. Do not attempt to push past them. If it's possible to escape through a window, do that when you have the opportunity.

They blame everything on the person they supposedly love so much, "why do you make me hit you?" Is a pretty common one.

The abuser reiterates that no one cares about them or will ever love them like they do.


10 million people a year are physically assaulted by an intimate partner.

20% of American women have been raped.

20,000 calls a day are placed to domestic violence hotlines.

Over 80% of injuries and death of police officers are when they respond to domestic calls.

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